“You translate everything, whether physical, mental or spiritual, into muscular tension.” F.M.Alexander
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Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”  ~ Chinese Proverb​​

On this page I will share my views on the transformational powers of working with your posture holistically, and the positive effect this can have on your emotions, self-esteem, confidence and resolving chronic pain.

​When we were young, most of us lost our ways of moving with joy and ease. In school and at home we were taught to "sit still", to "concentrate and pay attention", to "be quiet and to shut up" and reprimanded or even punished if we couldn't or would't, and rather wanted to move around and play.

And growing up we weren't taught how to live in our body with self-awareness, or how to move, sit and stand in ways that are empowering and sustainable.

wasn't something we learned from anyone.    . And it's not their fault. Body awareness is not part of our education even though I believe it should be. Good body use and awareness in everyday life is absolutely learnable, and it changes everything.

​No matter your history or or level of injury, your body is capable of expressing you through movements (postures) full of ease, grace and balance. But no one taught you how to access those qualities within yourself. This is not a personal failure but a missing piece of human education.
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Is This You?

Why This Matters to Me
I believe music is meant to be a living, breathing form of self-expression—something that flows from within, not just from the page.
But that’s not how I was taught. When I first started learning piano as a kid, creativity wasn’t part of the picture.
My teacher was kind and well-trained, but the focus was all on reading the notes and playing them exactly as written.

What I Keep Noticing

What I Think Is Going On
The problem isn’t with the people—it’s with how music is often taught.
YOu are conditioned to be quiet / we shrink when things are uncomfortable /this isnt happening becasue you are weak. Its happening because you have been trained to prioritize their comfort over your power. to stay safe with a narcissist parent 
But I teach you ....
I show you how to stop managing other people's emotions and start managing your own power. I help you break the trauma bond with 'being nice' so you van actually lead with grounded presence, not people pleasing

Why It Matters So Much
When music is only taught rigidly,

The Weight You’re Carrying It feels like your body is bracing all the time—tense, guarded, like you're holding yourself in to avoid breaking apart.
And that tension is cutting you off from joy, ease, and confidence.
You know you’re a smart, capable, accomplished person…
But your body tells a different story. There’s a shrinking that happens—an urge to make yourself small in rooms where you should be standing tall. Even minor criticism can hit like a wave of panic.
You pull in. You collapse.
You feel like disappearing.

What I Believe We Need
We need more ways into music.
More invitations to begin.
More space for exploration

What Happens If Nothing Changes?  What happens if it does change Let’s get real: this won’t magically get better with time.

Reclaim your body
Rebuild trust in your body

What It Actually Takes to Heal This
whether or not you work with me....this is what it takes to... you need a complete reorientation of how you see yourself in relation to power, pressure and permission. / shift your perception perspective balance at the root

Shift Your Perspective at the Root You must learn to see clearly what is yours and what is theirs. That means identifying how others’ projections, i.e. their urgency, their avoidance, their fragility, are invading your inner world and distorting your truth. You must release what isn’t yours to carry, so you can move from reaction to choice. When this shift happens, you: Stop taking notes while running the meeting.

Speak up when your name is missing from the deck you built.

Realize being liked isn’t worth staying invisible.

It’s not just mindset it’s mental decluttering, boundary recalibration, and emotional discernment. You can’t lead clearly when you’re carrying noise that isn’t yours.

Upgrade Your Language + Communication Patterns You need scripts that don’t collapse your power. Boundary phrases that don’t need 3 paragraphs of justification. Ways to say “I’m not available for that” that don’t set off a shame spiral. You need to learn how to speak with clean authority even when your voice shakes. Especially when others squirm. Because the goal isn’t to keep them comfortable, it’s to make yourself clear. With that clarity, you: Hold eye contact and say, “I want to talk about my next step here.”

Finish your sentence when Brad interrupts you…without apologizing.
Stop asking for “feedback” to validate work you already know is brilliant.
You don’t dilute your message to protect someone else’s ego. You let the room adjust to your voice, not the other way around.

Anchor Into a Bigger Truth You need to remember that you’re not here to be palatable. You’re here to be powerful. To lead. To disrupt. To hold higher standards…and show others what alignment actually looks like. And yes, sometimes that means being called “difficult.” Sometimes that means being labeled a bitch. But when it’s your truth that makes them uncomfortable, that’s not a problem..it’s a sign you’ve stopped shrinking. Because when you become the glue…you stay stuck. When you do the invisible labor…you stay invisible. And when your power makes others uncomfortable they call you a bitch, or cold, or “too much,” and you shrink to stay safe. Until you don’t. This work isn’t just practical…it’s metaphysical. It’s energetic. It’s about shifting timelines and stepping into a version of you who already exists the one who owns the room, claims the raise, commands respect, and leads from truth, not trauma. Because reclaiming your power isn’t something you think about. It’s something you become.